It will be worth it when the pounds start to drop !

I’ve been on my fitness journey for a couple months now, and I must say that I am seeing results slowly but surely.

AI get tempted ALOT , usually after stressful days and work. I mean who can argue that dulce de leche on a waffle cone can’t fix any bad day . But so far I’ve been pushing through.

I am also constantly fighting against the allure of my favourite dish, Alfredo pasta, but so far I’ve been winning.

My “pineapple allergy” has prevented me from enjoying my favourite shakes and smoothies and a whole host of other foods I used to enjoy. But that’s life, well atleast my life at the moment.

I’m here to offer some solace for those who may be on a similar journey.

Yes, it sucks that you can’t eat a whole tub of icecream when you are feeling down or have the occassional snicker or cadbury or pretty much enjoy anything that makes you truly happy ; but it all feels worth it when you put on your favourite pair of jeans and it is too big around the waist, or your clothes begin to fit you loosely in all the right places.

It feels worth it when your friends or family start to comment on your weight loss and finally when you have to go shopping for a whole new wardrobe because you’v dropped a size or two.

But the best feeling in the world is when you fit into that “poster dress”.

You ladies know what I mean ; it may be the dress you wore two ,maybe four years ago but haven’t been able to wear since you put on weight or for those who are a bit more ambitious like me , the dress you bought two sizes under for your birthday or other special occassion to give yourself that extra push.

My poster dress is a cute peach dress that I wore over 6 years ago to a Fresher’s Cocktail which has been hung in my room right by my mirror for a little over a year now. I almost fit into it for New Years Eve last year but then I got sidetracked. However, I’m determined to fit into that dress by my birthday, which is less than a month away)

Whatever your version of the poster dress or outfit is, you owe it to yourself to wear it again!

So as July begins let us all promise to put in that extra special effort to be poster dress ready by our deadlines ! And let’s crush those deadlines too !

Wish me luck and have a good day loves. xoxo

Stress tips !!!

Last night concluded an extremely stressful work week. I was feeling extremely ‘out of it’ but I still managed to drag myself to my 6:30 spin class and somehow made it through. I rushed home and when I got there I gathered all the energy I could muster and drew a warm bubble bath , stripped and got in it and just lay there.

The seconds turned into minutes, the minutes into an hour , and somehow all the stresses and stressors of the week seemed to disappear in those quiet moments. I had purposely left my phone in my bag in my room and even if it not there was no way I was letting anyone for whatever reason interrrupt my “me time“.

When I finally emerged from that bath over an hour later I felt like an entirely new person ready to take on the world and work again. Why am I oversharing you may ask? Simple ! I believe we all need to find our destressers!

I have several destressors. And they rank in order of the severity of the stress level.

  1. Watch my all time favourite comedy ;Hangover 1. You CANNOT be stressed while watching Hangover.
  2. Binge watch a funny show like Black-ish or catch up on Catfish. Refer to the rationale for number 1.
  3. Go to the movies alone; Popcorn,nachos, salsa, a smoothie and a good laugh always manage to help me put my life in perspective.
  4. Beach days with friends or solo beach days are also a great for destressing.
  5. Spa days are second to none. I mean who can turn down a nice relaxing spa day whether alone or with close friends.
  6. Read a new book. This works for me because I’m big on reading but I acknowledge it’s not for everyone.
  7. My all time favourite destresser is Icecream. I mean, Who doesn’t like icecream? And more importantly who can be stressed while sitting over a tub of haagen dazs ice cream , preferably dulce de leche( arguably the best flavour in the world).

Maybe you’ve had a rough week like I’ve had or maybe you’re having a rough couple of weeks or even months. Maybe you’ve been feeling frustrated , insecure depressed or are just overly stressed. Whatever it is I’m sure it won’t seem so big when you’re stuffing your face with icecream or lying in a warm bubble bath with some soothing music playing. Trust me!

And guess what ? It’s Friday so the week is almost over.

Treat yourself this weekend!

Destress in any way you deem best ! ( I just rhymed there lol … some would call it poetic)

Enjoy your Weekend Loves ! xoxo

Help! I’m allergic!

Who doesn’t love pineapples?

This delicacy has been my favourite fruit since I could feed myself.

I love pineapples in all forms raw fruit, juice but especially in smoothies. I usually start my mornings with a strawberry pineapple or strawberry,banana and pineapple homemade smoothie which always guarantees I have a great day.

About a month ago I bought a strawberry pineapple smoothie from my favourite shake place and realished it made my throat itchy and lips sting and blister but I played it off as maybe it was an acid one and they had not added enough sugar.

The next week I made a smoothie at home using strawberries, bananas and canned pineapples with no added sugar , and a few blocks of ice. Immediately I realised my throat starting itching. At this point I convinced myself it was probably the preservatives in the can and it couldn’t possibly be the pineapple.

I even revisited the smoothie place and asked the lady if they used fresh pineapples as opposed to canned. She assured me they did. I reluctantly settled for a strawberry banana smoothie and mused over the fact that it was missing pineapple.

I stopped eating pineapples for about a week or two after that.

I had forgotten about my pineapple problem for a while until yesterday I purchased 2 bags of fresh sliced pineapple from a fruit vendor as I’m on a fruit cleanse and as soon as I bit into one and the sweetness ran down my lips; my tongue, throat and mouth began to tingle and itch and my lip ultimately got blistered and slightly swollen.

There it was, the seemingly undeniable truth that I am allergic to pineapples! But delusion is a stronger tool than we sometimes realised so of course I finished the pineapple convincing myself it was a bit sour.

I ate the other pineapple this morning for breakfast and now it is very clear that I am allergic!

But how can this be ??!!

  1. Pineapple is my favourite fruit.
  2. I have been eating pineapples since I was a child.
  3. How am I now realising this allergy at 26 ?!
  4. This does not make any damn sense !
  5. I really love pineapples !
  6. Pineapple juice is also my favourite juice
  7. This is almost as bad as finding out I’m lactose intolerant and can’t consume icecream!
  8. My second favourite fruit is strawberry, but it can never compare to pineapple.
  9. This would mean no more pizza because what is pizza without pineapple.
  10. No more pina coladas??!!

After I was finished venting to my significant other who is always pretty calm in the mist of my adversity, He suggested that I stop eating pineapples immediately that it isn’t a joke. But what does he know?! Is he an allergy specialist??!

I am not being dramatic ! I am pretty crushed ! This is worst than finding out that there is no tooth fairy or santa clause for a child. Sorry if I spoiled that for you guys but I’m bitter.

This is like finding out you are adopted and suddenly you begin to question everything!I’m legit questioning if I could have possibly ignored warnings for all those years. I have prolly eaten pineapples 300 times out of the 365 in a year.

I don’t know who I am anymore!

I don’t know what to eat . I don’t know what to drink! I am so lost without pineapple.

I am hoping to take a short nap now and when I wake up this will all be a dream. But incase this isn’t a dream or some sick joke, What do I do?

Do I accept this to be my fate or Do I face it head on and say , Challenge accepted? lol

Have a great day loves! Please eat some pineapple while you can because someday you may wake up and have that luxury snatched away from you.

Be blessed!

It’s okay

I’ve restarted the gym for the third time this year and today totals one week I’ve been back, Yea me! I should be at a spin class this very moment but instead I’m sitting on my bed sipping juice from a wine class and watching lifetime. And that’s okay.

Before I would beat myself up and get annoyed about my lack of results. I’ve started and restarted diets more times than I can count. I’ve watched cheat meals which I usually have on Fridays turn into cheat weekends effortlessly. I’ve managed to remain pescatarian but have been struggling over the last month to become full vegetarian.

When I post I’m back on a new diet or back to the gym people literally message me and say ” Here we go again”. Even my boyfriend has given up on my dieting and often says “You’ve said this before” but nonetheless here I am another day, another diet TAKE 30!

Why am I telling you this? Simple!

I want everyone reading this to know that It’s okay.

Maybe you’re struggling to lose that last 10 lbs for the last 2 years and that’s okay.

Maybe you thought you’d be married by 25 and have 2 children by 30 but instead you’re broke , single and have 3 cats. That’s also okay.

Maybe you’re feeling lost and like nothing in your life is going as planned just take a break , maybe get a glass or wine or a scoop of icecream and take a deep breath love. It’s okay.

Maybe you just finished university or college. You have no idea what to do next or if you’ll even find a job. Just take a minute or a week to relax and gather your thoughts and guess what ?! We’ve all been there and it’s okay.

All of these things are okay.

It’s okay that I’m not at my goal weight. I’m actually so far from my goal weight that I can hear people singing ” To dream the impossible dream” in the background.

It’s okay that I don’t have my dream job or my own home as yet.

It’s okay that I’m not married or have children at 26. I mean children are expensive! I’m expensive! I can’t even afford my lifestyle! But some of my family and friends seem to think that should be my plan.

What’s not okay is letting persons or society pressure you into their norms or standards if you aren’t ready. You’re supposed to be working by 21, married by 25 and have children and a mortgage by 30 ?! Did I get it right? I’ll pass every single time. And that’s okay.

It’s really okay. You are in competition with no one but yourself. It’s your life and your story so write it, let no one guide your pen. You’re doing great and you will be fine.

Goodnight loves

Why is Losing Weight so hard?

Short answer ? Everything that tastes amazing is bad for you and aids in weight gain.

I am clearly no weight loss expert as I have been struggling with my weight for over 2 years. One minute I’ll stick to a diet and lose all the weight and then I’ll put all the damn weight back on at which point I’ll give up, say at least I tried and I’m cute anyway so who cares.

They are several reasons why persons struggle with weight loss like I do. Here are just a few

1.Everything I love is terrible for weight loss

Anyone who knows me know that I have a sweet tooth and Icecream and Chocolate Cake have very special places in my heart. These however like all the other things I love are terrible for weight loss and therefore have continually stunted my progress.

2. Lack of Self Control

Some of you are probably like me and lack self control. I’m the chick whose cheat meals turn into cheat days and/or cheat weekends. If you’re like me you already know what to do stop pushing the limits if you said one meal enjoy the meal and then go back to the plan.

3. Laziness

I am pretty lazy. I have to be in the mood to work out but I do love spin classes and morning jogs. If you’re like me I guess you just have to find the physical activity which you love. I personally believe that everyone loves spin but I know it’s not for everyone.

4. Stop skipping breakfast

I’m generally not a breakfast person. But I’ll probably make a shake or smoothie before a workout. Even if you don’t have a huge breakfast you need a substantial breakfast as it has been proven that skipping breakfast is more harmful than good when it comes to weightloss.

5. Eating too much or too little

Eating too much goes without saying but eating too little may be even more harmful. It not only sabotages your weight loss efforts but it can be harmful to your health. Your body can go into starvation mode which can lead to complications like low blood pressure or anemia. So when cutting calories make sure you maintain the daily required amount for healthy weight loss

6. Plan your meals

If you’re like me you lose control or unravel when hungry. This is why meal planning is key. This will prevent you from grabbing the first thing you can when you become hungry which is usually junk food or snacks.

7. Stop comparing yourself to others

Though I’ve never had this issue it may be a struggle for someone else. We all have to recognise that we are on our own weight loss journey. We also have to accept that we have different body types , metabolic levels and dietary needs. It is critical that you never judge how quickly or slowly you are losing weight in relation to another and just trust your process.

I wish to reiterate that I am no weight loss expert but these are just a few observations.

Also, if you are trying to lose weight you should definitely cut carbs from your diet. A low carb diet is key. Eliminate flour ( especially bread and pasta) and sugar as much as possible.

Drink your water, exercise regularly ( 3 to 4 times a week is recommended but varies based on the intensity of your programme) and get adequate amounts of sleep (6 to 8 hours recommended).

Finally , Just remember that you are beautiful and you’re going to lose the weight! Just trust the process.

What are you guys watching?

I’m sure most of you like me are patiently waiting for April 14th. I’m so invested. I’m on my fifth watch of the entire series so I’m right on time with the Final Season. After all “Winter Is Here”!

Other than that I’m binge watching several other shows that I’ve fallen behind on. My television show interests are all over the place. It’s a mixture of action, drama and comedy.

Truthfully I have different types of shows for different days and different moods.

For example, If I’ve had a stressful day or week there’s nothing I want to watch but “Black-ish” or “Shameless”. If I’m not super stressed but want a good laugh I’d find myself watching “Modern Family” orGrown-ish”.

I’m hooked on “How To Get Away With Murder “, “9-1-1” and I have been scrubbing in with “The Resident” , but have fallen behind in “This is Us” after the break. Honestly, that show gets me so emotional I think I need an emotional break and a box of tissues before I restart.

Suits was my heart but as happy as I am for Meghan she took piece of me away when she left the show. I am an avid Mike Ross fan though and will be binge watching that later on this year.

Most of my friends have been basically begging me to watch “Power” but since “Empire” has disappointed me so much I’m honestly probably never gonna start. I know it’s nothing like Empire that’s what everyone says but I just can’t take that chance at this stage in my television show experiences. I’ve been hurt before I need to heal first lol.

There’s this other show I found called “The Wrong Guy” that I was hooked on for a bit last year but I haven’t had the time to fit it in my schedule while trying to juggle the others and still make my April date. A girl has to get her priorities in check. I know y’all know who’s voice I said that in!

Finally, I watched a very thrilling season of “Killing Eve” and also plan to keep watching that but for now A girl must be ready for Winter!

I want to know what you guys are watching and if you have any suggestions for me. So feel free to like and comment and let me know what y’all are watching and if you guys are getting ready for winter too.

As usual have a great day !

Adulting in 5 easy steps!

Almost 2 years ago I came to the stark realisation that I was not going to have my life together by 25. I had recently graduated from law school and after numerous rejections was feeling pretty depressed. I was single and broke with no prospects in sight.

My twenty-fifth year was approaching fast and the closer it got the clearer it became that it was going to be nothing like I had envisioned. It took me a moment to realise, but this did not mean that I was a failure or that I am wasting my life.

If you are scared to start Adulting, have (for whatever reason) not been Adulting , have not the slightest clue how to start Adulting or simply have been Adulting but are feeling overwhelmed… Don’t worry! I have a plan as I always do  and we shall get through this together!

Life does not come with instructions. So here are my steps to mastering Adulting.

Number 1: Take Responsibility

Regardless of the reason that you aren’t or haven’t been Adulting, you need to accept responsibility. Maybe you had a tough life or couple of years, maybe you got screwed over , maybe you can’t find a job, maybe you’ve been studying all your life , maybe you’ve been sheltered all your life. The harsh reality is NO ONE REALLY CARES.
Every person has been through a tough period in their life , has lost someone , has been hurt, has hit rock bottom or has felt like giving up and for this reason , no one wants to hear your sad stories. So keep them to yourself.

Coupled with this, you need to lose the attitude of entitlement! No one is entitled to give you anything or do anything for you. You are an adult , so start acting like it! Trust me , It’s time to stop playing the blame game and to start getting in the game. If you want something you have to get up and go get it.

I was bitter and disappointed when I sent out over 30 applications and received either rejections or no responses at all. I eventually got to the place that I accepted that it was on me to find or make employment for myself. Those persons owed me nothing not even an explanation but I owed myself. I owed it to myself to put my law degree to good use and to ensure that all those years I studied were not in vain.

This is not an easy step. It takes a strong person to conquer this step but I did and you can too.

Number 2: Make a plan

A goal without a plan is just a wish” – Katherine Patterson

You may not be like me and have a plan for every single aspect of your life. But in order to move forward you must have some sort of plan or goal in mind. Ask yourself these two questions: What do you want ? and How can you make it happen? The answer to these questions will determine the nature of your plan. So get to it.

Your childhood days are over so you cannot expect or rely on anyone else to make a plan for you. Furthermore, it’s your life and you are the one who has to live with the results of the decisions you make so I strongly suggest you take control.

I decided after long consideration that I wasn’t going to wait on any firm to reject or hire me any longer I was going to be self sufficient and I was going to invest in my future and take a chance on myself. It was honestly the best decision I ever made.

Number 3Cut Unnecessary ties

A big part of Adulting is being able to make tough decisions. This can include losing a couple parasitic people from your life and truly considering who your true friends are. Guys, it’s okay to grow apart from people , it dosen’t mean that you hate each other or have to see them and cause a scene, it simply means that their chapter in your life is over and you are doing what is best for you. To avoid the drama,  I usually just change  my cell number.

This also applies to relationships. You have to know what you want, and by now you should know what you can and cannot tolerate. Have standards and don’t lower them for anyone! Don’t date or lead on people you don’t see a future with. Just be honest and cut them lose, it’s time to grow up!

Number 4: Get your priorities in check

Your parents are no longer expected to bail you out of situations and you should not allow them too, unless it’s out of jail of course.

You need to get your act together and start making wise decisions. This means it is no longer cute to spend your last on an outfit or a fete weeks away from your next pay check. It means that you do not need the latest iphone if you cannot afford it or if you have bills to pay or could use that money towards something more substantial.

It means that you will have to say no to chilling until 4 am on work nights because you have to be up at 6 am to prepare for work. It means you are going to act like a responsible adult and always consider the effect of your actions.

Once you learn to prioritise Aduting will become a breeze.

Number 5: Learn how to handle rejection

This is very crucial to Adulting! It is no longer cool to throw tantrums like a brat or act like the world revolves around you. Suck it up and move on. Failure is not final, and how you handle failure will determine how successful you will be.

Every successful person has failed at some point in time; Walt Disney was fired from a job because he “lacked imagination and had no good ideas”, Oprah Winfrey was also fired from her first television job because she was too emotionally invested in her stories, Thomas Edison’s teachers told him he was  ” too stupid to learn anything” ,     Albert Einstein had difficulty communicating and learning in the traditional manner… and I can go on , but I’m sure you get the point.

They didn’t give into their failures but used those experiences to drive them to do better, and today none of them can be considered failures.

Sadly , rejection and failure is inevitable.

You will fail a test or exam ; you may get rejected from several employers before even getting an interview ; the person you like  may not feel the same way , but that’s life.

Just remember! Do not give up! Do not allow the circumstance to have that power over you, if you want it bad enough you will find another route. Learning how to handle rejection separates the average from the extraordinary. Which are you going to be ??

Let’s get our Adulting on then . I really hope you enjoyed this post. Feel free to like or comment. Have an awesome day!!!! 🙂