New Year’s Eve is my absolute favourite time of the year!!!!

I’m already wearing my Happy New Year tiara and cuddled up on my couch with a glass of my favourite wine and reflecting on the year that I’ve had. I’ve learnt many lessons this year and I thought I’d share a few with you. So here are 4 lessons I’ve learnt in 2022!

1. It’s okay to not be okay.

Everyone is going through stuff. Don’t be so hard on yourself. Stop comparing yourself, your achievements and your relationships to others and give yourself grace.

2. Distance does not dissolve love.

As an extrovert, I thought I would go crazy when I moved and wouldn’t be able to hang out with my friends and spend time with my family, but my friends have really been just a phone call or video call away. A few friends really stepped up and have really been there for me, I never imagined I’d be having venting sessions over the phone but I guess the pandemic was preparing me.

It’s not the same, I hate that I have to watch my nephew grow up via pictures and videos. I hate that I wasn’t able to spend his first Christmas with him or that I won’t be there to celebrate his first birthday, but I make sure I send the best gifts so he knows who his favourite aunty is.

3. Closure is overrated.

Sometimes you are going to be forced to move on without it. You cannot control persons or sometimes situations, you can only control your response and sometimes you have to walk away and not look back to preserve your peace. The older I get the more important guarding my peace has become and I preserve my peace at all costs. This may mean not responding to a triggering email, walking away from an argument or simply leaving a toxic relationship whether romantic or platonic. Whatever the situation, you have to put your peace first. You cannot pour from an empty cup!

4.You are capable of much more than you think.

This year I took a job as a law lecturer having never lectured before and it was very challenging at first. Many days I asked myself what the hell have I signed up for or what made me believe I can do this, but I did it and I do enjoy it. As I prepare for next semester I have a greater grasp on the job and have more realistic expectations and am ready to take on the challenge head on.

Whatever you may be doubting yourself about. You can do it! You are strong and you are capable!

Now step into 2023 believing it !