Hi loves,

One thing about me whether it’s the gym or a hobby that I got to busy to keep up with , I will pop back in like I never left ! I’m backkkkkkkkkkkkkk.

I recently completed the book ” It Begins with You” by Jillian Turecki and I truly think it is a must read. The book is not the typical relationship type book but urges readers to look within when issues arise in their relationships.

I promise I’ll keep it short and sweet since this is my resurrection after 3 years. Here are 3 points / relationship advice no one asked for but I am going to give anyway.

1. Sometimes you are the problem

The definition of insanity is doing the same thing and expecting different results ,yet we often refuse to acknowledge our harmful dating patterns. If you always end up dating the same type of guy or girl – you know the asshole, narcissist or lovebomber- and every relationship ends in the same way. It’s time to acknowledge that you may be the problem too.

There is a reason why these type of persons are attracted to you. Maybe you are too easy , maybe you accept mediocrity or maybe you simply need to set some boundaries. Either way ,you are the common denominator here. Look inside and figure out why.

2. Unhappy single won’t equate to happy in a relationship

Marriage and long term relationships are extremely hard work. They require two persons who can complement , support and choose each other daily.

If you are expecting a partner to fix or complete you, I promise you the void will get bigger until you truly fix or complete yourself. Too many seek relationships for completion and not companionship.

3. It is okay to walk away

I have witnessed so many persons lose themselves in relationships or situationships that they stayed in for longer than they ever should have. People stay for different reasons, and some of those reasons run deep. But if you are staying for optics, comfort, fear or because you’re worried about what family or friends may think, that is not okay.

I promise you, most people are too consumed with their own lives to care as much as you think they do. The people who truly love you will choose your happiness and peace over appearances every single time.

Walking away does not mean you failed. Sometimes it means you finally chose yourself.

Anywayyyy, that’s enough unsolicited relationship advice from me for today. If you’ve read the book, let me know your thoughts. And if you haven’t, add it to your list immediately. You’ll thank me later !