Don’t Give Up !

Good morning loves ,

This morning, like most mornings I woke to my alarm going off at 5:30 am. I reluctantly put it on snooze allowing myself 5 more minutes as I glare through my window to total darkness. How is it morning already I think to myself.

Eventually around 5:40. I’ll emerge from the safety of my bed, wake up my brother as his similar anguish gives me some form of temporary comfort and am ready by 5:45to go for my morning jog.

I’ve been doing this for over a month and I can’t say that it is getting easier. But I always get up. Even if I ignore my alarm for 30 minutes and crawl out of bed at 6. I still go for a jog. Even if I’m feeling ill , once I check my Fitbit and I have the slightest amount of competition or the other competitors or more than 1000 steps ahead or behind me , I get up.

This morning I left home around 5:48 am. I was cold and miserable and within the first couple minutes my feet were aching but when I looked at my brother. I just couldn’t stop. I had to keep going. I didn’t want him to lose out on his run because I was weak. So I turned up my Lizzo and pushed myself. Yes , I said it! I listen to Lizzo when I run because her music is very upbeat and inspirational for running.

I pushed and pushed and I made it way further than I usually do and than I had expected to make it. My brother even asked me at one point if I wanted to stop but I was adamant that I’m not ready to stop.

Eventually I slowed down and walked a bit. But I made it the entire 3K. I made it because I did not give up.

I’m feeling great and proud of myself and I just wanted to encourage anyone who may be reading this to do the same.

It may not be a morning jog like me. It may be your dream job or any job that you are applying for you may think you are under qualified or not capable of handling , but I urge you not to give up.

It may be a relationship that may not be going great right now but if you think he or she may be the one, Don’t give up.

It may be a task at work that you just can’t seem to complete! Today will be the day that you crush it , maybe you need a break or to tackle it from another angle. Don’t you dare give up!

It may be your dieting or weightloss journey. It may have been years since you started and you aren’t seeing the results you desire , Sis, if I haven’t given up that you surely can’t give up either!

We are in this to win it ! We are not giving up!

Have a great day loves and be blessed.

Stop kissing frogs and expecting them to turn into princes !

Good Morning loves ,

This topic came to me while scrolling through my Instagram stories and seeing the familiar rants of one verbal follower who always has “frog issues”. And then it hit me like a toothache you are never really prepared for. This could be my next blog topic…

Ladies , Ladies ! It’s is 2020 ! We are not wasting our time and energy on frogs!

We are not wasting our time on guys who don’t know what they want ;well I have a theory that they know what they want they just don’t want you sis, it’s time to wake up !

We are not wasting time on mumma’s boys. Let him be with his mumma and find yourself a prince who will make you his number one priority .

We are not wasting our time on f boys. Yes I said f boys because I don’t type expletives. But y’all know what I mean. Stop sleeping with these frogs ! It’s 2020 ! Get a damn toy or something !

I am no frog expert but my motto has always been time is money so don’t waste my time and by this I have managed to keep the frogs away for the most part. There are some frogs who put on some prince costumes sis.

Here are some guidelines to help you spot the frogs.

1. You cannot tell if he is interested

Sis ! It’s because he is not interested in you. Even if your dude is shy his actions will show that he is interested in being with you. When words fail actions will speak. And if his actions and words fail, Stop wasting your time on that frog !

2. You are always the one making plans and initiating conversation

Sis ! If he does not make plans with you , initiate conversation or return your calls or texts. He doesn’t want to talk to you. Stop waiting on a sign and stop bothering that frog he doesn’t want you.

3. He only calls you late in the night but is busy all day unless making plans to come over the night

Sis ! If you put those words together they spell booty call ! Block that frog !

4. You never have deep conversations with him. He never asks about you , your family or friends or anything much deeper than sex

Sis ! Do I really have to say it again ?!! He’s a f-f-f-f-frog !!!!!!

5. You know nothing about him but his damn name *wide eyed emoticon*

6. He keeps repeating the same mistakes and then keeps apologizing cause you keep taking him back

Well Sis , you are clearly happy with you frog ! I wish you the best.

7. He says he doesn’t do relationships but he likes hangingwith you.

I honestly believe that if he genuinely likes you a relationship will always be a possibility. I’ve known several guys who weren’t looking for relationships but got into a relationship with the next lady they dated after frogging one lady for years. Sis ! Let him go find the lady he wants to be with cause it clearly is not you !

8. If you guys never go out in public or when you do its some very secluded place or a drive thru window

Sis ! Quit frogging !

9. Your relationship is basically entirely based on sex

10. He flirts with other ladies infront if you

Sis ! If he does it to your face he clearly has no respect for you. He’s a frog I mean flirt !

Finally , if he looks like a frog , walks like a frog and talks like a frog. Do you really need to kiss him to confirm that he is a frog !

It’s 2020 Sis ! This is the year for Self Love ! Stop kissing that frog and go find your prince !

Have a great day loves ! Feel free to drop a comment or state whether you agree or disagree.

This is the year for Self Love !

Good morning loves ,

We’ve made it to a new year , a new decade, a new age ! This is the year for Self Love !

Persons will argue that Self Love is selfish and it is selfish to put everyone and everything after yourself. However , unless you love yourself first you will be incapable of loving others or being the best version of yourself for others.

Let us devote this year to loving ourselves more!Let us make self love our major goal this year!This year, let us unconditionally love and accept ourselves.

I want us to seriously work on ourselves.

I meet so many people who are broken ; who are still not over an ex ;who don’t feel like they deserve love ;who are so insecure they just take on the persona of whomever they date and sadly most of these persons I encounter are in relationships.

This is clearly problematic , well at least it is clear to me. It seems these classes of persons expect their partner to heal or fix them. They depend on the love in this relationship to help them get over the love they lost or they have no idea who they are or what they want so they just settle for whomever comes along. This is very toxic behavior and will almost never work in the long term. This is why it is so crucial that before you get into a relationship that you love yourself first. It all comes back to your concept of self. It all comes down to how much you love yourself.

If you love yourself, you won’t allow that ex to control you for the rest of your life;

If you love yourself you won’t let him or her abuse you whether physically or verbally ;

If you love yourself you won’t need your partner to help you get over him or her ;

If you love yourself you will be yourself instead of being who you think your partner wants you to be;

If you love yourself no one else will need to because you’ll be self sufficient and any love you encounter will be a choice and not a necessity. You won’t need love and therefore you will only give your love to those deserving.

With all that being said. Here are a few points to note on your self love journey.

1. You are worthy of Love ! Write it down , make it your screen saver , Stick a sticky note on your mirror ; do whatever it takes to remind yourself that You are worthy of Love!

2. You have to be selfish with your time and energy. When you are learning to love yourself you have to learn to say “NO”.

3. Date yourself! Do the things you love alone. Once you get comfortable going to movies , dinner or even the spa alone you’ll realize that a partner is an option not a necessity.

4. Love yourself unconditionally. Take a few moments a day. Look in the mirror. Take off your clothes and really spend some time looking at yourself. Look at your face , your body. Embrace every inch of you and smile and know that you are worthy of Love.

5. If you don’t love the way you look change it. It makes no sense being insecure about your weight or some other thing you can change like your hair. If you want to lose 20 lbs quit fretting and hit the gym. If you think your hair is dull get some highlights. If you hate your butt do some sqauts! This will also build your confidence , you’d be surprised how much a change of appearance can do for you.

6. Cut all negative ties! I don’t care if it’s a family member or a best friend. If people in your life are negative and make you feel insecure or unworthy ;Cut Them off ! If Granny has to go Granny has to go !

6. Finally , I am not suggesting that you shouldn’t spend time with love ones or friends but you have to invest more time in yourself. So if you spend 2 hours a day with them , I expect you devote 6 to 8 hours to loving yourself!

2020 is the year for Love ! Love yourself first and everything else will fall into place. Have a great day Loves. Love you all xoxo

2020 ! It’s about time !

2020 is here finally !

I began 2020 the same way I began 2019 hopeful and fighting sleep, cause y’all know I be knocked out by 9 pm most nights.

I know it’s usual for persons to make New Year resolutions because at the end of and old year the atmosphere is reflective and positive, but instead I want us to focus on the fact that in a few months it will be 2021 , then 2022, then 2023 and I’m sure by now you get the idea.

I recall 2 decades ago I was so excited as I awaited the dawn of the year 2000. Then I awaited 2010 , at which point I was in college.Somehow after College the years just flew by ;I honestly feel like since I finished College and started University the years just swept by without warning. Before I knew it I was awaiting a new decade and considering how I got to this point and how much further I need to go. Before , I know it I’ll probably be awaiting 2030 with similar sentiments.

The past years and decades I’ve learnt a lot but one extremely valuable lesson that I’ve learnt is that you should never allow anyone to waste your time. I often say “ Stop wasting my time” or “Time is money , so don’t waste my time” and you better believe I mean it.

I am telling you first hand that if you don’t make proper use of your time you’ll always be making the same resolutions year after year , you’ll find yourself dealing with the same issues and you’ll find yourself being left behind with the waves of change.

For 2020 , It’s time we all take stock of our lives and our time! It’s time to become selfish with your time ! Reclaim your time, wasted time is worst than wasted money. Let this year be the year you spend your time on the things and people who matter most.

And just like that I’m out of time. Goodnight loves !

It will be worth it when the pounds start to drop !

I’ve been on my fitness journey for a couple months now, and I must say that I am seeing results slowly but surely.

I get tempted ALOT , usually after stressful days and work. I mean who can argue that dulce de leche on a waffle cone can’t fix any bad day . But so far I’ve been pushing through.

I am also constantly fighting against the allure of my favourite dish, Alfredo pasta, but so far I’ve been winning.

My “pineapple allergy” has prevented me from enjoying my favourite shakes and smoothies and a whole host of other foods I used to enjoy. But that’s life, well atleast my life at the moment.

I’m here to offer some solace for those who may be on a similar journey.

Yes, it sucks that you can’t eat a whole tub of icecream when you are feeling down or have the occassional snicker or cadbury or pretty much enjoy anything that makes you truly happy ; but it all feels worth it when you put on your favourite pair of jeans and it is too big around the waist, or your clothes begin to fit you loosely in all the right places.

It feels worth it when your friends or family start to comment on your weight loss and finally when you have to go shopping for a whole new wardrobe because you’v dropped a size or two.

But the best feeling in the world is when you fit into that “poster dress”.

You ladies know what I mean ; it may be the dress you wore two ,maybe four years ago but haven’t been able to wear since you put on weight or for those who are a bit more ambitious like me , the dress you bought two sizes under for your birthday or other special occassion to give yourself that extra push.

My poster dress is a cute peach dress that I wore over 6 years ago to a Fresher’s Cocktail which has been hung in my room right by my mirror for a little over a year now. I almost fit into it for New Years Eve last year but then I got sidetracked. However, I’m determined to fit into that dress by my birthday, which is less than a month away)

Whatever your version of the poster dress or outfit is, you owe it to yourself to wear it again!

So as July begins let us all promise to put in that extra special effort to be poster dress ready by our deadlines ! And let’s crush those deadlines too !

Wish me luck and have a good day loves. xoxo

Stress tips !!!

Last night concluded an extremely stressful work week. I was feeling extremely ‘out of it’ but I still managed to drag myself to my 6:30 spin class and somehow made it through. I rushed home and when I got there I gathered all the energy I could muster and drew a warm bubble bath , stripped and got in it and just lay there.

The seconds turned into minutes, the minutes into an hour , and somehow all the stresses and stressors of the week seemed to disappear in those quiet moments. I had purposely left my phone in my bag in my room and even if it not there was no way I was letting anyone for whatever reason interrrupt my “me time“.

When I finally emerged from that bath over an hour later I felt like an entirely new person ready to take on the world and work again. Why am I oversharing you may ask? Simple ! I believe we all need to find our destressers!

I have several destressors. And they rank in order of the severity of the stress level.

  1. Watch my all time favourite comedy ;Hangover 1. You CANNOT be stressed while watching Hangover.
  2. Binge watch a funny show like Black-ish or catch up on Catfish. Refer to the rationale for number 1.
  3. Go to the movies alone; Popcorn,nachos, salsa, a smoothie and a good laugh always manage to help me put my life in perspective.
  4. Beach days with friends or solo beach days are also a great for destressing.
  5. Spa days are second to none. I mean who can turn down a nice relaxing spa day whether alone or with close friends.
  6. Read a new book. This works for me because I’m big on reading but I acknowledge it’s not for everyone.
  7. My all time favourite destresser is Icecream. I mean, Who doesn’t like icecream? And more importantly who can be stressed while sitting over a tub of haagen dazs ice cream , preferably dulce de leche( arguably the best flavour in the world).

Maybe you’ve had a rough week like I’ve had or maybe you’re having a rough couple of weeks or even months. Maybe you’ve been feeling frustrated , insecure depressed or are just overly stressed. Whatever it is I’m sure it won’t seem so big when you’re stuffing your face with icecream or lying in a warm bubble bath with some soothing music playing. Trust me!

And guess what ? It’s Friday so the week is almost over.

Treat yourself this weekend!

Destress in any way you deem best ! ( I just rhymed there lol … some would call it poetic)

Enjoy your Weekend Loves ! xoxo

Help! I’m allergic!

Who doesn’t love pineapples?

This delicacy has been my favourite fruit since I could feed myself.

I love pineapples in all forms raw fruit, juice but especially in smoothies. I usually start my mornings with a strawberry pineapple or strawberry,banana and pineapple homemade smoothie which always guarantees I have a great day.

About a month ago I bought a strawberry pineapple smoothie from my favourite shake place and realished it made my throat itchy and lips sting and blistering but I played it off as maybe it was an acid one and they had not added enough sugar.

The next week I made a smoothie at home using strawberries, bananas and canned pineapples with no added sugar , and a few blocks of ice. Immediately I realised my throat starting itching. At this point I convinced myself it was probably the preservatives in the can and it couldn’t possibly be the pineapple.

I even revisited the smoothie place and asked the lady if they used fresh pineapples as opposed to canned. She assured me they did. I reluctantly settled for a strawberry banana smoothie and mused over the fact that it was missing pineapple.

I stopped eating pineapples for about a week or two after that.

I had forgotten about my pineapple problem for a while until yesterday I purchased 2 bags of fresh sliced pineapple from a fruit vendor as I’m on a fruit cleanse and as soon as I bit into one and the sweetness ran down my lips; my tongue, throat and mouth began to tingle and itch and my lip ultimately got blistered and slightly swollen.

There it was, the seemingly undeniable truth that I am allergic to pineapples! But delusion is a stronger tool than we sometimes realised so of course I finished the pineapple convincing myself it was a bit sour.

I ate the other pineapple this morning for breakfast and now it is very clear that I am allergic!

But how can this be ??!!

  1. Pineapple is my favourite fruit.
  2. I have been eating pineapples since I was a child.
  3. How am I now realising this allergy at 26 ?!
  4. This does not make any damn sense !
  5. I really love pineapples !
  6. Pineapple juice is also my favourite juice
  7. This is almost as bad as finding out I’m lactose intolerant and can’t consume icecream!
  8. My second favourite fruit is strawberry, but it can never compare to pineapple.
  9. This would mean no more pizza because what is pizza without pineapple.
  10. No more pina coladas??!!

After I was finished venting to my significant other who is always pretty calm in the mist of my adversity, He suggested that I stop eating pineapples immediately that it isn’t a joke. But what does he know?! Is he an allergy specialist??!

I am not being dramatic ! I am pretty crushed ! This is worst than finding out that there is no tooth fairy or santa clause for a child. Sorry if I spoiled that for you guys but I’m bitter.

This is like finding out you are adopted and suddenly you begin to question everything!I’m legit questioning if I could have possibly ignored warnings for all those years. I have prolly eaten pineapples 300 times out of the 365 in a year.

I don’t know who I am anymore!

I don’t know what to eat . I don’t know what to drink! I am so lost without pineapple.

I am hoping to take a short nap now and when I wake up this will all be a dream. But incase this isn’t a dream or some sick joke, What do I do?

Do I accept this to be my fate or Do I face it head on and say , Challenge accepted? lol

Have a great day loves! Please eat some pineapple while you can because someday you may wake up and have that luxury snatched away from you.

Be blessed!